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So, in short: I think for neurotypicals there is thing about being careful to keep your hobby and your work separate, because turning your hobby into your work will make you hate your hobby. But for autists one should seriously consider making one's hobby ones job, because then you will not hate work. Is this an accurate take? 38yo currently on sickleave for burnout in tech support (which is much better than customer service, which I did before), and I am in the middle of getting diagnosed (I have had bad experiences with trying to get help, but now I have a bath I feel safe/confident with - there are signs of autism, ADHD, depression - this seems like a bit of a standard cocktail until it is narrowed down?). I spent 10 years fighting to finish my master's (I come from a country where a BA is seen as just an entry diploma to a master's), and now you tell me 85% unemployment :D (if my issues are indeed autism). Well, I think I really learned something here. I will never function doing normie things in a normie job in the normie world, so instead I should stop trying to force myself into their boxes, and build my own box. I have so many divergent interests, where the obvious overlap is not a core interest, so I have no idea about what I should do, but at least I think I now know where to start looking. So, thanks :)

any brands and clothing recommendations for autistic children of single minority moms :) your whole channel saved my life when i felt my health declining and realized i am autistic and adhd and endometriosis and something else so i quit my job and now i am fighting to provide an autism friendly reality for myself and my daughter who just turned 5 today :)

Are those real birds??? I loooove the bird sounds in the background 🎶🦜 very brain tickly (also great job on this video series!)

28:00 kind of sad but kind of cool... even if i have no other person whos really trying to understand or help me... just being left by anyone made me realize... At the end, i´ll always have me to love and comfort myself.... (my cat does help me a lot)

This video made me so emotional, Im hardcore on "clean" no contact type of breakups. I don't talk to my exes, and enforces strong boundaries bc I want to think it's healthier to not let it linger, and also because I get so vulnerable and people pleasing that Im scared of being manipulated and used in that state. So I tend to be overprotective, also cause it's only been much shorter relationships where the other acted hurtful or was incompatible. And it makes me not trust that they have my best interest at heart. Only twice was I able to have a tender prolonged closure, but I have a victim mindset that would make me feel like I been taken advantage of, for even gently separating from a lover who betrayed me. Even if I acted with consent, I have such strong mixed feelings that it doesn't always feel consensual. I don't know how to explain that feeling, of being hurt, resentful but very enmeshed and codependent at the same time. Breakups are so draining, but Im grateful to know that there's not just one way to do it. Thank you so much for this video, that enables me to act more fragile and human. I also think I thought it was the normal juman thing to cut off things abruptly, and I just repeated that, but that's not what I want

can relate to you 100% *Wrote just now n email to my therapist that we need to talk about diagnoses...

Keep making content like this please, this was a lightbulb moment! Such a simple thing, but so impactful. Thank you so much

Irene , thank you so much for being vunerable in your videos.. I love how you frame this with so much respect and kindness for your mom while also portraying a relatable dynamic.

Omg, the T-Rex arms... I thought I was the only one with this problem! 🦖😂❤️

As a person who at 40 just learned I have autism I can no longer do the kind of work I did for decades. I started working at the gas station graveyard and though I make way less money by like a quarter I am more happy. I have so much CPTSD from the work I was doing. I will also use the fact I don't make much money and on medicaid to work towards getting disability for my autism and also for my bad toe. I'm fortunate enough to have saved good money and paid off house but I also turned to alcohol and alcohol along with autism and cptsd have ruined my life. But I'm recovering finally don't anymore

The misunderstanding of autism is an intentionally created weapon, meant to nerf the biggest threat to the matrix. We are in a spiritual war; a war of principalities. And people who think differently are the target.

Lucifer and Jesus are both referred to as "The Morningstar". Lucifer is of truth and light. The new and old testament gods are two different gods. Jesus is the son of Lucifer. Satan and YHWH (otherwise known as Zeus) are the same entity. He is also the god of gang stalking and r*pe. Fittingly he is called the Great Deceiver.

Gang stalkers target the expansion of consciousness. They attack autistic unmasking, because it expands consciousness. They attack weed and mushroom consumers, and try to get people hooked on pharmakea, which doesn't grow out of the ground, and thus can be controlled.

Watching this makes me so sad because every word is true, sometimes I wonder why God made me this way. I'm intelligent and earned a degree, and like the video says I put so much effort in to get my first proper job, in appearing right, taking care of personal hygiene and dressing in ways that I felt made me normal. I was able to keep the charade up for 3 years, I quit my job after a complete breakdown late last year. I was thinking of studying in another direction but I'm getting older and it all seems so messed up, plus I prefer to be alone but also have this intense need to be wanna have friends and a girlfriend again. I dunno what I'm gonna do other than pray and read my bible. I don't mean this offensively but I wonder what I would have been like if I was normal? :/

Styrofoam makes me cry and everything in me feels like it’s exploding

Would love to hear and learn more about your experience on this! It all absolutely makes so much sense to me compared to the typical cold cut-off.

I relate to this so much

these are so funny i hope you do another video like this

That category thing for boundaries would’ve helped me a lot lol I just be sharing everything with everybody not realizing there are socially acceptable things for different groups ie. coworkers, friends, family 😭😭

The sentence "they're your romantic partner" in an Aussie accent only has one "R" sound in it haha

hi. does or has anyone else used the woods to have meltdowns in? like, if you live in the country, in order to not do it in front of your family? (and end up scaring or annoying them. or making them angry.) if i didn't have the opportunity to go out and do more physically active and often violent stims, i would feel my heart fall, because i knew that my evening was ruined, i wouldn't be able to do my homework, i wouldn't eat or take care of myself, trying to sleep would be a night of restless terror, AND the next day i would be anxious, confused, grumpy so so grumpy, and tired. also, (anyone else?), i would be in more physical PAIN, if i DIDN'T do the "harmful" stimming, then if i just got it all out. note: i was so accustomed to this as a reality, as how i work, that i knew when too far was too far. so i almost never seriously injured myself, and i'd come in before i got hypothermia. usually rosy cheeked, laughing, and satisfied like an exercised dog. and i knew the woods i was in, how to survive if i had to, but mainly how to avoid having to survive. i didn't get lost much. i dressed myself warmly enough. i knew what sounds to look out for, what to do and not do around animals, etc.

The zoo is a great place to work if you’re autistic

I can’t express how much these videos have helped me as an undiagnosed adult. While I wait to find the right type of therapy for myself, these examples and explanations are so validating. It’s also helpful to have how I feel be explained out loud too because I really struggle with verbalizing my thoughts

I've been single for 6 years Remember I've been break up twice Our relationship doesn't last As Long though but I've been having some Good times with my ex-partner And I still missed that

Another great video that articulates and validates a pattern in my life I noticed after my last break up which was particularly painful that it sent me down the road to figuring myself out (including neurodivergence, nervous system dysregulation, etc) and because I was determined to never go through such a painful pattern in my life again if I could help it.

Lmao not Hitomi 😂

This tendency of mine finally became a great asset when I got a job as a newspaper reporter! Finally, I had a great use and need for my natural questioning behavior! 😄

i love this video

I've been burnt out since 2020 and I'm trying to find a way out 😭 I'm scared to go back but I just have to do something eventually I can't live like this forever. Ugh!

Anyone else feel like every stim you have is linked to a certain memory? Like it has its own origin story? Gawrsh this video was so enlightening.

This is so true! I got up at 5am, getting 2 hours of sleep, getting ready for my maintenance guy to come at 1pm. He left. I’m totally exhausted and now I’m questioning if he noticed I was so discombobulated ( even though I tried to keep myself self-composed.) When is it going to end??

Yessss literally this is soooo accurate! I recently broke up with my partner of 4 years and we've been having to live together until our lease ends ~ for 3 months. There was one other time, about a year ago, where we broke up for a couple of days and I was completely unhinged mentally and in constant meltdown mode, it was so unbearable that I opted to get back to together. I realized now it was because I wouldve had to quit my job and leave our home as quickly as possible and move back with my family (not a good environment) vs this time being a slow process and transition. Still living together has allowed me to take time to process everything and properly move through my emotions without being thrown into my whole life changing immediately just like you talk about. I feel so much more ready to go our separate ways at the end of our lease and transitioning to living alone. Mentally, I've been able to let go of the future I thought was there and slowly realize and connect with my new future now. As we've been going through the phases of grief, there's been ups and downs, but we've actually been able to clear the air and share our feelings and really process why the break up is necessary but that we still care for each other as people. If I would've just left immediately, there would still be so much things not talked about and so much resentment and unprocessed feelings between us. Staying in each other's lives during this period has really been such a blessing in the end.

So you're saying my deep aversion to cold morning clothes changes and showers could be an autist thing. Dang man

My parents did this when I was younger, they told me mid gaming session (smite) that they were getting a divorce. Over the next couple years while I moved out for college they lived separately but continued to meet up like nothing ever happened, at least to a 16-19 year old who never had any relationships! Now I can realize they there were definetley underlying issues but love most of all!… I always admired how they loved each other regardless of frustration/problems in their own lives… just as people not parents. They are now back together! There is no rule to relationships.. especially when it comes to roles in the home, both of them brought things to the relationship to better each other, truly soul mates 😊

Same for me and met a lot of autistic people who said the same. I really like how you explain these subjects, because before I had more autistic friends, I felt like I was alone in the world with these difficulties or aspects of me. So I'm sure your videos will help a lot of autistic people who aren't lucky to have autistic friends.

I have the opposite: I am way too expressive and I have to mask it. Maybe this from my adhd

What age did everyone else begin cheek-biting?

9:32 ive lived in my new place post breakup for over 6 months now, still absolutely broke down sobbing last night bc i was so sad i couldnt use the utensils i used to use at my old house. really weird what hits you.

I've been feeling this intensely with a recent relationship that shifted from romantic to platonic and haven't been able to articulate it

I’m feeling lonely today and it is very comforting and reassuring to listen to your experience at this moment. 🤍

Yes exactly. We memorize specifically. what to do in detail. And generalizing. Can’t do I’m introvert and on spectrum. What a wonderful explanation

I think I just met ME…. Seriously…. This is the beginning of a new understanding of my whole life . I just turned 60 and can breathe a little deeper knowing I am not “a mess” , I am not a mistake, I am my own normal. It’s just like having brown hair and wanting to be blonde like everyone else and judging myself as bad because I was born with brown hair. It’s not MY FAULT that “gentleman prefer blondes”… the world prefers blondes as well. Literally and metaphorically I have DYED my hair to be more blonde and feel I “Died” myself to be more BLAND. It stops now. Thank you.

You've articulated this idea really well! It does make sense to me. I broke up with my partner of 7 years, who I had moved countries to be with, nearly two years ago now. We did something similar- due to logistics of me living in his country, we lived together platonically for some months after the break up. He had already planned his annual days off for that summer, so instead of it going to waste, we also took a trip together as platonic friends. It wasn't quite like you describe your conscious uncoupling in this video, but definitely something similar. I remember feeling confused/offended that his family was telling him it was unhealthy that we still lived in the same place together, only two months after we went from romantic to platonic. Why is the rest of the world in such a rush? Thank you for your content Irene, it always resonates.

My boyfriend and I broke up after almost 4 years of relationship and living together. We both still love eachother and have no resentment. But i was having an incredibly hard time accepting that he would have to move out, so we've been accidentally doing concious uncoupling. I was doing incredible amounts of fight or flight but also felt very fearful that we will never talk again but i couldnt vocalise it. It has still burnt down everything I've built up. I had to stop doing uni and all my routines broke down. At the moment i dont even feel like i can build it up again

so you think its harder for autistic people to let go of the memories with others like relationships? do you think thsi applies also to the little things that bother autistic people like getting a bad grade and cant let go of this etc?

With every relationship I've been in my partner became my special interest so when we broke up it was difficult to get over it

Both my gf and me are neurodivergent (probably autistic, it is vers obvious, but diagnosed adhd) and it is so difficult for me to structure my routine to be efficient in every aspect of my life and it can be draining, but I could not imagine a day without her

Great content!. I was Diagnosed with Dyslexia and ADD as a child, so a tripple whammy 😅.

When you were talking about abandonment wounds, I thought about how crazy it is that in the neurotypical world we don't have a mechanism for ending relationships without opening such wounds (abandonment, insecurity issues etc) on ourselves and the people we are with. It's almost as if the function of the break up is to wound each other because we couldn't make it together. And I've never thought of it like that before or considered there are ways to not do that. I mean, we're in a loving relationship, and we want it to go well, we want to meet our needs and the other person's. But sometimes we just can't, we're not a good fit. And then we turn and hurt each other. Why? It doesn't make any sense. It's nice to know there's a way to separate that's less like butchering the bond, the ties between us, and more like untying the knots together until we're both able to stand on our own feet as full, separate human beings.